Do You Ever Feel so Tangled up That You Can’t Move Forward in Your Own Business?

Just over a year ago, my family and I experienced the serious illness of my Mom, and all my brothers and sisters had to deal with this situation together.

Everything was ambiguous and we didn’t know what was going to happen for sure.  We couldn’t even make plans.

What I needed to keep saying to all of the others was, “You know, we just have to take this one step at a time.  We don’t know what the end result is going to be.

“We don’t even know what’s going to happen from moment to moment because it’s all uncertain.  So what we need to do is soften this whole experience, right?

“Would you agree that no matter what happens we’re going to have to deal with it in the moment?  But we can soften it a little bit by acknowledging that right now, here is where we are.

“What we have to do is understand that we can’t fix this right now”.

I said this in front of all our family members.  “Can we all be Ok with the fact that we can’t fix this right now? Can we all agree that right now we can’t fix this?”

They were like, “Yeah.  OK, then what can we do?  Where can we find our place of power even now in what seems like a place of no power.”

This was the softening that we all needed to cope with the unknown and still be in the present to take action as needed.

You will often find yourself in situations in life or in your own business or career where you are in a point of what I call tangled energy. It’s like you’re in the middle of a big knot and you can’t get out and you can’t go farther because you’re just stuck!

When you feel that way, try the following steps for detangling your energy.  You won’t be able to move beyond a blockade in your own business, or even forward to managing your energy around it until you are able to first smooth out the knot!

Start with Centering yourself.

• Breathe.
• Activate the Energy Grid of you and your Inner Guidance or a support group that you may have.
• Gently allow your Inner Coach to guide you to know that you are coming into an intentional space.
• Something powerful is happening here.
• Expect that to happen.
• Expect activations.
• Expect miracles.
• Miracles are natural occurrences and you and your Inner Coach will be sharing them together.

See and hold the Energy for yourself to be the way you want it to be.

This may not be where you are right now, but where you want to be.  Take in and allow who you are spiritually; your Inner Coach is holding that energy and that place for you.   You feel no limitations and you can see you in your wholeness.

You deserve to be there because that is who you really are; and your Inner Coach goes there with you.

You might hear your Inner Coach say to you, “Everyone thinks you are great; the only one who has energy about this is you.  That kind of simplifies the problem because you are really only dealing with you right now.

“I always like to say that the Universe is out to do me good, so I’ll just let it do me good.  The Universe is out to do me good!   I am grateful!  I just have to let it in!”

You are allowing your inner guidance to be a literal energy cheerleader for you!

State your inner and outer intentions for what you want around this Energy that is tangled.

State the issue.  You already know the issue.  It is the place where you feel conflicted or where the contrasts feel too big or where you feel tangled up.

Writing the issue down gives you a place to allow some inner coaching.  Ask, “What has my challenge been?” Answer the question and write your issue down.

Ask the question, “Will it be OK if I don’t 100% resolve this today?”

Can you feel how much softer that is?  Can it be OK if this thing that has been plaguing you for years, doesn’t have a final resolution in this one inner coaching session?

When you can soften it, you can gain access to a place where you can intend to make a little bit of movement on that big thing, but it’s all right if it’s not fully solved today.

Can you feel the pressure lift off for you?  Softening is a wonderful, powerful energy management tool.  Soften the experience.

The next step is to help you make a vibrational shift so that you can come into alignment with your intention.

You and your Inner Coach are holding the energy that you will make that shift.  Only you will know when you have made that shift and then can move into having access to an inspired next action.

If you try to move to an action first, you can get tangled up in what I like to call your “energetic underwear.”  What I mean by that is a sense of being frazzled – not knowing which way to go – feeling that your perspective is all scattered and tangled.

Deal with the intention of alignment first, and then detangling the energy is not so difficult.  It’s a natural flow when you align with the intention.  Then you can gain access to an action and even feel good and excited about it.

Don’t even consider an action until you detangle the issue first!

What happens when you feel good and excited about an action you are going to take? When it’s inspired by being in alignment, you don’t have as much resistance.  It’s different from forcing yourself to do whatever the BIG thing is.

i.e. I’ve got to write a marketing plan today.  I’m going to write my bestseller book by Friday.

It’s enough to make you want to go to bed and pull the covers over you so you are invisible and aren’t expected to do anything! Or better yet, go out and play and think about it tomorrow!

Honestly, the problem is that you just don’t break the job down into do-able pieces.  On To-Do lists, people write things like – Tuesday, write my marketing plan.

How many steps is that?

ONE GREAT BIG THING!

But if you just started with one baby step, you can have success and it inspires you to keep moving.  Baby steps are the best!

You are literally detangling the energy around taking the action.  When a little baby who’s crawling on the floor starts learning to walk, you don’t stand him up and say, “Come on now, walk over there.”

They have to grab onto some furniture.  They grab on, they fall down.  And they take little tiny steps.  And
before you know it, they’re walking and running all over the place.

So, “Take baby steps” is the key phrase you’ll always hear from me.  Baby steps.  You can do a marathon made up only of baby steps, and it will be good.

I’m OK. You’re OK.

It’s really OK when you have tangled energy and seem to go off the wall a bit – meaning you may feel scattered, ambivalent, not in the present, the past or the future.

It’s OK, because you can bring yourself back.  Does that make sense?  You can stop feeling this really big responsibility about being a seeker on a spiritual path.

Often you can get into a way of thinking and you beat yourself up because you’re trying to be spiritual and you feel you are not perfect.  You might criticize yourself with, “Well, you know I got really mad at somebody and that’s not very spiritual”.

Well, it’s not true that you are not spiritual, but what are you going to do from there?  What did you get from that?  Where can you go from there?

A big part of coaching yourself in your own business is making the best of where your are, being OK with where you are.

If you think, “I’m here right now and I want to be somewhere else,” and you feel the loss and the lack of not being somewhere else, then what happens?

You can’t be a match to the essence of what it is that you are wanting.

So you’ve got to be OK with where you are now. You have to soften the sting or whatever it is.  You’ve got to talk it down.  You’ve got to do whatever you can to soften your thoughts to be OK with where you are, to be all right even if it doesn’t look so great.

You want to find a place of peace even in the midst of turmoil.  Do you see how that can help you to be free?
What if everyone could do that?  Did you just get goose bumps at the thought of everyone being able to do that?

Well, that’s what this is all about and that’s why you are all pioneers – why you’re drawn to the idea of being a Spiritualpreneur!

If you’re interested in learning more about this idea, and you want some free (I know you like the sound of that!) insight on how others have done this, listen to a free teleclass I did recently that talks about really moving forward to success in these times.

You can learn more about how to access your Inner Coach and how to attain business success no matter what is going on in the world around you.

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