What’s the Proper Way to Quit a Job?
May 20, 2009 by Sharon Wilson
Filed under Activations, Diversify Your Income, Spiritualpreneurism
I’ve talked to many people that have told me they are unhappy in their job – they want to leave but they’re not sure of the best way, or even if it’s a wise move – I mean, wouldn’t it be better to just stay and be miserable considering the economy?
Personally, I can really relate to being unhappy in your job – it’s what happened to me and how I ended up doing the work I’m in now. I was VERY unhappy in my job!
I was a corporate executive, working about 90 – 100 hours a week. I was never disconnected – I took my work home, took phone calls at home, and often worked late into the night.
I had this kind of Type-A, workaholic personality that pushed me to do all this, but I was so unhappy because I didn’t feel like I was doing anything that really made a difference.
In my experience, I’ve come to understand that if you are unhappy in your job to the point where you are looking for the proper way to quit a job, there is a real disconnect – an energetic misalignment with where you are right now.
Your job may have served you extremely well over the years, but now there is a disconnect and you want more. It’s like you’ve launched some rockets – what I call Order Forms to the Universe – and you’ve basically launched an Order Form that says:
- I want to feel fulfilled in my work
- I want to enjoy the people I work with
- I want to make the kind of money that makes me happy – that pays my bills and luxuries
- I want more
The disconnect is that while you want more, you’re in a situation where you only keep focusing in on how you don’t have it, so what you get is a crashing against you’re current beliefs – there’s no way I can do it, I won’t be able to find anything new, etc.
For me it was along the lines of, “Who would ever pay me the kind of money that I am making now in any other career? I’m not really qualified to do anything else!”
The truth was, there were a lot of beliefs I had to shift – because it was my own beliefs that were actually holding that miserable reality in place for me!
If you’re wondering about the proper way to quit a job, know that it is first an energetic issue.
When I coach people that are unhappy in their current situation, my first advice is always: You’ve got to make peace with where you are.
The more you focus in on how unhappy you are in any situation, the more you’re going to continue activating that unhappiness and remaining in that current vibration. You’ll also have a higher likelihood of eliciting the same reactions from other people around you.
It becomes a vicious circle – the more unhappy you are in your job, the more unhappiness is going to show up for you, and you’ll keep finding more to be unhappy about in your work!
So begin by knowing that if you are unhappy in your work, it means that there is some kind of disconnect that simply means something more wants to be born. Start identifying the specific things that you’re unhappy about – the things that you don’t want to experience – because it is in knowing them that you can turn them around to what you do want to experience.
You can begin to get more clear on moving toward what you WANT (and you’re always clear about what you want when you’re in the middle of what you don’t want!)
Let it be OK that you’re unhappy in your work. If you refuse to acknowledge your true feelings about it, it’s going to be like trying to put a big blanket over the giant pink elephant in the middle of the room. It’s not changing the fact that the pink elephant is there!
Going hand in hand with that – if you just run off to another job while you’re unhappy in your current situation, you’ll only take your negative vibration with you. And you’ll only attract more of it because you haven’t solved the energetic issue!
You have to solve the energetic element first.
Begin with something tiny. Start making a list of anything you can think of that you like about your current job. You can write anything – things like, ‘They pay me.’ ‘They have nice carpeting here.’ ‘No one smokes around me’.
You’ve got to start finding those little pieces of things to appreciate – doing this is what will begin to activate higher vibrations to attract something better that you can now be in alignment with!
You can’t attract a wonderful new job with wonderful people that love what they’re doing when you are miserable and hate what you’re doing! You’re not a match – it’s not going to happen – they’re not going to pick you!
So many people think, “Oh I’ve just got to get out of this job or this marriage or this situation…” But the reality is that you can’t be a match to something new unless you’ve made peace with where you are to be able to attract something higher.
If you’re in a miserable marriage, you’re not going to be a match to a great new relationship.
You need to start BEING those qualities that you want in that new person or that new job, and then things will begin to naturally show up as matches to you.
- Someone at your work that gives you a hard time will stop or no longer be there
- Your boss will really begin to recognize your talents
- An opportunity will come up out of the blue for you to happily transition into something else…
And all of a sudden you’re loving your job!
BUT none of that is going to happen from your current vibration if you are only looking for a way to get out and focusing on how unhappy you are. It’s all vibrational in nature.
I like to say, “It’s not them, it’s you!”
If you’re looking for the proper way to quit, begin by taking vibrational responsibility for yourself. Once you do that, you can start to be more in alignment with something more being attracted to you that is more of a match to what you say you want.
Otherwise, you’ll only keep recreating the same situations by repeating the same vibrations. If you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, know that you are not stuck – you’re just repeating patterns and creating the same thing over and over again.
Change your vibrational output, and you will change your experiences to more of what you want!
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Well, that’s very difficult. But in my case, I don’t want to stay in my current job if I am no longer happy for it. What’s the use of working? Why waste my time?
But if you are happy, then stay.
This is such an eye opener though many would still have a hard time leaving the job that pays the bill.I just hope they would learn to love the job eventually.It sucks to stay in the office for 8 hours or more that you feel is just draining you.
Everything you have written there I 100% agree with. I find that if you are happy at work, everything else falls into place: your friends, social life, your happiness with your parner. Work is so important so whether you are looking to stay and take the positives (e.g. short commute to work, great coffeeshop next door) or are looking to move on, make sure you act as it will lift you no end.
if we not happy with our work now just quit. life isn’t about money, follow our inner voice and happiness will come and makes us grateful
I’ve had the chance to do exit interviews before and you’ll be surprised to know that a lot of employees who quit their jobs (without another offer at hand) are oftentimes confused and distraught with what they want for their professional careers.
Confidence is what that is needed…SO be in the way that life takes us..Only way to archive…
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do watch some of this on TV – and I wish they’d go 20-30 minutes every now and then without showing those at home everybody’s hand. Just stick with one person to get a better feel for how the game really is – and how lost you can be unless you know what you’re doing.
That’s a really good article. Now that many people are relying on home based businesses, they quit their job and focuses totally on the business. But quitting your job needs to be done in a proper manner. Who knows, if your business is not going well you might need to come back to your old job.
I work for the state and to be honest, I’m really quite sick of it. I went to an interview yesterday and I pretty much have a new job setup that seems very interested in hiring me. But was unable to think how to quit the current job without hurting any body. This post enabled me to gather tips upon this. Thanks for the post.
I would just say that before you make the decision to quit, be absolutely sure that this is the right decision. An employee once called me the day after she started her new job. She hated it, regretted resigning and wanted to come back. By the time we heard from her, we had already filled the position and she was out of luck.
YEs, Its true that if your not happy in your current job! must resign or send a resignation paper, Before you leave your job you must get another job for your daily needs.
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This is so critical! What good is a decision made with doubt and fear? The victim fearfully awaits outcomes; the victor moves forward with clear intention.
I’m tempted to say that the proper way to quit a job is to look them in the eye, yell “I Quit”, turn around, walk out and slam the door.
But, a more constructive answer might be to line up a better job, one that is more in alignment with what you want. It’s not always your fault, sometimes you simply get hired by someone and they are a nightmare to work for!
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